Online Dating Standards

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A couple posts ago I spoke about online dating.  I’d figured I’d go into a bit more detail about private (sexual) conversations and my thoughts on the fact they should never start.  Here we go, let’s dive into the way I choose an online potential.

1. First Message is “Heyy Sexyy” (or something similar)
Yes I have gotten this message, not just once either.  Whenever I see that a gentleman
caller has messaged me this, I always go “creep” his profile.   I look for triggers such as
“Wants to date, but nothing serious” or “Not actively seeking a relationship or any type
of commitment.” These are not the guy I would like to date.  Especially in my 30’s. Who
wants to date at this age someone who doesn’t want a relationship? Oh, you think you
might be able to change their mind? In my experience when a guy starts off a conversation
this way, his mind is on just one thing, sex.  Typically do not message these guys back. If I
do it usually continues to get more and more vulgar.

2. Congrats!  You made it past the first message

I recently had a gentleman caller write me a short novel as a message.  It was well thought
out, intelligent, and not vulgar in the least. Had his username not been vulgar I would have
continued the conversation.  Not everyone is like this though. I am just more aware of the
thought behind an online profile. And you have the option to change your profile handle....
Just saying.


3. Starting to feel comfortable

This is when I say to myself "Hey you know what? This one can have an entire conversation
without once mentioning the S word." Its great to have that type of connection without talking
dirty. Its at this point I decide that I can meet this person or at the very least be Facebook friends.
I find that its easier to have a little conversation before actually meeting in person.  I usually agree 
to coffee, never drinks.

These a just a few steps in my online dating lifestyle.  Comment below if you want more from this series!

Stay Tuned!

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