Always Say I Love You!

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             I recently experienced the loss of a friend. Don’t feel sorry for me, instead please pray for comfort for her family and friends. However, it got me asking some tough questions. When was the last time I saw her? When was the last time I reached out to speak with her? What was the last thing I said to her? I’m sure others in her short life are thinking the same. The funny thing is these questions do not pop up any other time than during loss. But I do hope one of the last things I said was “I love you.”

            Those three little words hold much power and emotion. Usually, we say it to our romantic loves and family members. Not many of us say “I love you” to our friends. Over the years I have learned that friendship is a form of love. Friends can be there for us in a way our family members cannot. They are there when we need secrets shared, wing-people, shoulders to cry on. Our friends are people we rely on in a separate way than our family. Why wouldn’t it be ok to say, “I love you”?

            People confuse the meaning of the word love. There are many distinct types of love: romantic love, friend love, family love, and unconditional love for others. I’m not sure when it became weird to tell people who weren’t our family that we loved the, but what is the big deal. Yes, love is a strong word, but if we feel that strongly to say “I love you” to about anyone that should only mean we care and value that special bond we have with that particular person. We say “I love you” to God (or other religious being) and our pets, why not our friends. We never know what moment will be our last, and we need to let others know how we feel about them. Say I love you before we leave each other, even if we are mad at that person.

            Love is a powerful feeling, not just reserved for those we have romantic feelings for. Why is it ok to tell our blood sibling we love them, but not to tell a friend who we treat like a sibling the same? I tell all my friends “I Love You.”  If I say those three words to you, I’m not being creepy or anything, I do love you. I may still feel it even if I don’t say it, but that is because I’m not sure if you share the same feelings for me. Love is a complicated emotion and when we start spewing off to people that we love them, they may take that love the wrong way.

            During life, we gain and lose friends. We grow apart from those who we care about and slowly begin to say that we’ll speak with them tomorrow or hang out tomorrow. Tomorrow is not always promised. Remember to say the things you mean to say now and always end your conversations with an I Love You.

 I Love All of You.

 Stay Tuned!

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